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Most people want to be involved in relationships where truth and trust are the norm. While being truthful with and trusting of another person can be difficult, breaking through can be extremely rewarding.
A new article at a relationship website called be irresistible points out effective ways of making this important form of progress. Given that it will not always be easy or realistic to be entirely truthful in every case, tips like the ones featured in the post can be a real help.
Struggling with What to Do When the Truth Might Hurt Another Person
Given that most people prefer being truthful to begin with, it might seem strange that this would even be an issue. In practice, though, every relationship will go through moments and phases where one person telling the truth could hurt the feelings of the other and possibly cause problems.
Arriving at such a juncture can put a person off guard, and some instinctively default to telling what can seem, at the time, like a harmless, minor lie. When a romantically inexperienced partner asks about one's own relationship history, for instance, it can seem as if minimizing the number of past encounters might make the most sense.
As the be irresistible feature points out, however, this often turns out to be a recipe for disaster. When it inevitably becomes clear, later on, that one person was not entirely truthful with another about such a personal issue, the relationship will necessarily be weakened, as a result.
It's Often Better to Delay Instead of Lying
What the author of the post recommends is taking another approach entirely. In many cases, simply singling a lack of willingness to talk about the subject in question will be enough. Rather than committing to a take on things that is not entirely truthful, this can help a person buy some time until the right moment to broach a sensitive subject arrives.
After all, it is not as if the average person would go searching for reasons to lie to a person they care about. Feeling cornered into answering a difficult question at the wrong time is often what leads to lies, however minor, being forced out. Recognizing this and seeking a better way to move on can therefore be productive.
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